I'm baaaaack! After 3 months of being in a relationship I am now back on the market and single again. It was fun while it lasted, but in the end he wasn't for me and once I realized this I had to break it to him. So on one night after dinner in his car when he went to drop me off at home, the conversation went a little something like this:
“Can we talk?” I asked.
“Sure, what's up?” he said slowly.
“I just don't think this is working out. You're a really great guy and we had a TON of fun together but I just think in the end we want different things and we just aren't a good match.”
After telling him this I slowly looked up at his face and instead of seeing a sad puppy dog expression it was as if I saw pure relief.
He said, “It's funny you say that, because I was beginning to think we weren't a good match as well. I'm just glad I wasn't the one who had to bring it up.”
(Thanks for making me do the dirty work!)
It was the most amicable break up I had ever gone through in my entire years of dating and it was as if a HUGE weight was lifted off my shoulders. I had been harboring this feeling for quite some time, thinking it would go away, disappear or subside and instead it only grew, bigger and bigger. It came to the point where everything he did bothered me. The way he would say things, what he wore and even right down to the way he walked. I always felt irritated and worst of all I wasn't sure how to communicate my feelings towards him as I didn't want to hurt his. He constantly would do the sweetest things for me, and I always felt like I let him down.
Another issue was PDA. He was all about the hand holding, the kissing at red lights while in the car and cuddling during movies. A lot of girls are into that, but I have never been a big fan of public affection. Maybe if I find the right guy my opinion would change, but I took my reluctance as a sign that he just wasn't the right one. Plus, don't you hate when your palms get so sweaty from holding hands too long? YUCK!
After the most civil break up of all time I failed to make it clear to him that I would need some space. Not a lot of time had gone by after breaking it off, and he was texting me, messaging me on Facebook and “liking” my posts to the point where I had to “unfriend” him and kindly tell him I could not be friends right away. He seemed rather shocked and taken back by this, but I am not the type of person to be dating someone one day and then platonic best friends the next. Space is needed following a break up!
I think it was a hard pill for him to swallow as his best friend is an ex (weird, I know!)…in fact, all of his ex's in the past were REALLY good friends with him. So good that he photographed most of their weddings. WEIRD!
So, am I wrong to think that wanting to be good friends immediately after being in a serious relationship is a bad thing? Well now that I am single I am off to change my Facebook status, delete all the pictures of us and slap on a sexy dress as I am ready to hit the town and paint it red!
Until next time…